You are what you learn…whether that is engineering (machine), lawyer (competition), human resources, drug dealing, bullying, etc.…until you learn something else and gain a new knowledge base to shift your paradigm…you can learn your way out of your current situation.
Reactive tendencies are leadership styles emphasizing caution over creating results, self-protection over productive engagement, and aggression over building alignment. These self-limiting styles over emphasize the focus on gaining the approval of others, protecting yourself, and getting results through high control tactics. These include:
Complying: with the expectations of others rather than acting on self-intentions.
o Conservative following of procedures; lives within the rules.
o Pleases to get others’ support and approval to feel secure and worthwhile.
o Belonging to meet authority’s expectations…”goes along to get along” which compresses full extent of creative power into culturally accepted boxes.
o Passive…lacks the power to create the future desired.
Protecting: withdraws, acts distant, hidden, and/or cynical.
o Relies on a perception of arrogance.
Controlling: in regards to task accomplishment and personal achievement.
o Perfect, driven, ambitious, autocratic.
o Forceful, aggressive, and controlling.
What is your life learning?
